Curing The Emotional Hangover
An emotional hangover is when we pour all of our energy into something (project, person, client, relationship, task...etc.) and are left feeling drained, wiped out, exhausted, and nothing left to give emotionally. Maybe all you want to do is lie in bed, watch tv and not do anything that requires mental energy. This can make us wondering if something is wrong, maybe we are lazy and unmotivated in life which can produce feelings of guilt and self sabatoging behavior.
Today I have a major emotional hangover and this is why:
- Just sold out my group Coaching Warrior Program
- Started recording audio files for my 9 month book project
- Getting ready to move to Peru in a week and a half
- Started Leaders Rising with Inner Glow Circle which allows me to lead monthly mastermind calls
- Working with some new and wonderful one-on-one clients this month at new raised rates
- Been leading some amazing webinars and live presentations to practice being more visible
- Processing a recent break up with my ex boyfriend
I’m so grateful for all these wonderful opportunities but I have to remember that I am also an empath which means I take on other's energies far too easily. I regularly need to create space to not be so visible and protect myself. I need some days to process everything, hide in my room, watch Netflix and not converse with people.
This is an important reminder for everyone that emotional hangovers are very real and usually happen after taking on big and new energetic projects.
Plan ahead and allow yourself to build in time to recharge strategically and don’t feel guilty about it. If you do feel guilty, then honor that but also know that by resting you are in just the active phase of the creativity process.
Yes you heard me right. When we rest we are still working.
Allowing yourself to mentally decompress, stepping away, and giving space to your projects is part of the creation process with running a business and just life in general so you can work smarter and not harder.
I tell my clients all the time that they can take a couple days off from work if they need a break to recover and they look at me like I’m crazy!
We live in a society that conditions us to constantly go harder and be more more more all the time. When we take days off it can feel like we are being "lazy" which is further from the truth.
Remember you are in charge here and not society. You get to decide your schedule and listen to your needs. No one else can do that for you.
Giving you and myself permission today that we don’t always have to feel so motivated towards taking on the world. There are some days where I just turn on Netflix, numb out my mind, and don't move for hours because that's what feels good. Other days I just want to be in nature so I'll leave my cell phone at home and spend the day hiking, doing yoga, and walking barefoot outside to soak up the "vitamin G" from the earth.
If you're glass is feeling half empty and an emotional hangover is happening then what do you need to do to cure it?